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Joanne Butler Henry's avatar

These issues around writing around the feelings of others are central to the form I choose for my writing (not memoir) and also can constrain my content. I think I also am honestly protecting myself from difficult truths.

i found this post really helpful,and especially Saunder’s thoughtful response to your questions

As a good friend/ former business partner would say to me as I starting winding up:”There’s plenty of time to panic. “

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Imola's avatar

Yes! “Delay the freakout!” :) good luck Joanna with this big endeavour!

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Esmé Weijun Wang's avatar

I’m terribly honored to be mentioned here. It’s a difficult matter to deal with as writers, but it’s important, I think, to discuss and talk about it. There’s no right way in matters like this. Hearing what other people think really helps.

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Imola's avatar

Your questions were excellent Esmé and they are in line with how I approach this tricky subject! Hope others can draw inspiration from this as well.

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Richard Donnelly's avatar

Here's my take. If you're read by the person depicted, you should have changed enough facts so that person could not be sure.

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Imola's avatar

It’s not always that easy Richard… :)

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Joanne Butler Henry's avatar

Imola, agreed!

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